Shazzie Whispers: 100 messages of loveI have a big heart. I’m not just talking metaphorically, I do actually have a big heart, bigger than “normal” for my size. This was discovered when I was about nineteen as I was having an ultrasound scan in a vain attempt to discover why I had such issues breathing. “There’s nothing wrong with your lungs,” said the doctor, “and my, what a large heart you have!”

My undiagnosed breathing “condition” never stopped me succeeding in my life, even though I sometimes still collapse when running for aeroplanes. Normally, in every day life, no-one is aware of it. Pranayama has helped, as has raw chocolate, with its ability to boost lung capacity.

My large heart definitely helped me to succeed in life. When faced with any adversity I’d finally always reach the same conclusion, assisted by Neale Donald Walsche’s quote in Conversations With God: “What would love do now?”

I’m not perfect. Well, I am, because we all are! But what I mean is I know I still have further to go with encompassing and embracing everything. We teachers can easily say “Don’t judge, don’t react, don’t take things personally,” and most of the time we don’t. And sometimes we do, when that funny little ego pops up and interferes. We usually take things personally when someone, somehow has found and pressed a button we didn’t know we had. Take the raw vegan fruit promoter who dismisses anyone without 3D qualifications as people who know nothing. PRESS. Take the people who copy my work, blatantly, and pass it off as their own. PRESS. Take the state registered dietitians who dismiss real foods. PRESS. Take the father who forgets I’m a grown woman and lovingly overprotects me. PRESS.

And why do these things press my buttons when they may not press yours? Because they represent the deep depths of my own personal work, to get a bigger heart, to love more and to accept and ultimately let go of everything. Even the things my experience tells me aren’t true.

I’d love to ask you — what presses your buttons? Is there a pattern? Does the same thing happen time and again with different people? Until you resolve that situation, you will be presented with the pressing, so it’s really worth working it out.

So I read the outrageous dogmatic claims of the fruit raw food promoter, feeling that people are being misled, that children may suffer and realise it’s None Of My Business. I work on not caring what someone I've met a handful of times says indirectly about me. I am not The Guardian of Raw, even where children's nutrition is concerned, even when I researched nutrition for raw vegan children for four years while writing Evie's Kitchen. Minding your own business is the biggest route to love. What goes on outside of your own heart is external, and we know that if we externalise we can’t do our core work.

So I watch how people copy what I’ve done, creating books and web sites with similar names, using the same techniques, and I tell myself that my ability to empower and inspire is so strong that even some people that I’ve never met will emulate me. Isn’t that what success speakers say? Model someone who’s made it. I turn those other emotions into gratitude and take such actions as compliments. I’m actually ecstatic that more conscious businesses and books are crowding out Ye Olde 3D Worlde ones.

With state registered dietitians, sometimes I laugh at their meat and two veg philosophy, and sometimes I just quietly observe that there are other ways to be, and I don’t need to argue, justify or judge.

And with the father who loves me too much? Well, he says he’s cut a man-shaped hole in his field of protection, but it’s only the right size and shape for the man who can love me properly. We now laugh at these situations together.

We are all works in progress, constantly striving to be the best we can possibly be in the moment. Loving all situations as they arise as just pure experience gives us a different “bigger-picture” perspective on our lives. Our opportunities to love all situations are huge. And we don’t need to wonder what would happen to the world if we just loved every situation instead of reacting, judging and taking things personally. As conscious living pioneers, it’s our choice to be the ones to offer more love, to open our hearts to more diversity and to love everything. After all, we can’t destroy or eliminate everyone from our lives when they do something we don’t agree with because ultimately, we’d be standing facing ourselves and having the same amount of dualistic thoughts until we either destroyed or resolved ourselves, too. Resolving (or resloving) is the path to unity, the place in our hearts (well away from our minds) where everything is one, easy, beautiful and blissful.

I love u. And I love u so much, I've written another free ebook that you can download right now from here. Shazzie Whispers: 100 messages of love.

Shazzie (www.shazzie.com)
Managing Director (CEO), Rawcreation Ltd
Ecstatic Being : Visionary In Paradise : Author : Artist : Mother : Loveworker